Did I take the moral high ground, or just cover my ass?
I got three hours of sleep last night after my very soul satisfying spewing forth of the F word to my Mormon neighbors. I wrote an email to Greg at about two o’clock this morning. Much more was spewed forth in our “conversation” last night, and I refer to some of them here.
Greg,
After our conversation tonight at about 9pm, I am aware of situations that you feel are in violation of our HOA restrictions. Here is my plan of action.
I will move our basketball standard to the driveway as others have done at their town homes. If this is not acceptable, please let me know.
I have been meaning to replace the broken doorknob for the outdoor storage closet. It seems that someone has been removing and returning my garbage can on pick up days without my permission (his father-in-law). I also had problems around the holidays with people using my trash can for their excess Christmas trash (him), which left me basically without a garbage can for a week. I believe these incidents, especially the ongoing moving of my trash can without my permission, added to the early demise of my door knob. One day I could not open it and had to whack it off. I have been looking for a replacement that matches the others in the complex. Is it within guidelines to install one with a lock so others cannot continually access my exterior storage without my permission? Please let me know.
I moved the tether ball pole to the back after trying to load it into a truck to take to DI and was unable to. I have asked my brother-in-law to help me with his truck and hope to do this soon. As I moved it to the back of my unit out of site of anyone, I thought I was within guidelines (we can’t have anything on grass…and where I moved it isn’t). I will not have access to my brother-in-law and his truck until next weekend and hope that will be alright with the board. If not, please let me know and I will roll it over to DI myself Monday after I get home from work.
Thank you for clarifying the parking allowances in the circle in front of my unit. It is extremely frustrating to not be able to easily access my driveway and garage when people are parked halfway in front of my driveway. I also worry when people park in front of the fire hydrant and am glad we have a good scout in the area who is going to paint the “no parking” areas. If funds are need for this, please let me know and I can contribute some money.
I really have paid my dues through July. If it is no longer acceptable to put checks into the collection box at the clubhouse, please let me know and I will send checks directly from my bank via mail.
As for the alleged noise my daughter makes in the neighborhood. I really don’t think this is accurate. On weekends she is allowed to stay out later, but we are really pretty boring and get to bed pretty early. I spoke with her tonight and reminded her to respect other people’s property and not play loudly too close to other homes. She does have a moderate to severe hearing loss in both ears that might eventually lead to total deafness, and if she isn’t wearing her hearing aids, her friends do talk louder for her to hear them if she cannot read their lips.
I think I have covered everything. We might have our disagreements, but I feel it was inappropriate for you and your wife to say the things you said about my daughter tonight. Say all you want about me. Call me the worst of the worst. But children are sacred. You have beautiful children and I will never say otherwise. Please respect my daughter.
Sincerely,
This morning I made coffee, grabbed my camera, and went for a walk around our neighborhood and took pictures of every violation I saw, including one by the HOA president and one by his father-in-law, to cover my butt. As I headed home, Greg came out of his house with child in hand, I looked at him and kept walking. He asked me to wait that he wanted to talk to me. HE apologized. He said a lot of things and I could tell he felt he was in the wrong and exagurated some of the things he said the night before. I said okay. I then looked at his 2 year old son in his arms and told him in person, “Your son is beautiful and I would never say anything bad about him. Please don’t speak ill of my daughter.” He apologized again.
Filed under: vendor vent, Life Lessons, Mormon, Am I Bad?, Utah
Um Both?
Now I feel stupid for commenting on the one below. But GOOD FOR YOU!
I admire your inner strength. Stay strong. I’m exmormon living in a very mormon neighborhood. It brings out my inner mama bear when I see my kids treated as lesser cause we arent churchy. I just remind myself my kids are better off w/o people like tthat in thier lives. Hyprochy is so rampant in Utah. Im grateful for people like you.
It takes an awful lot of strength to go on and behave civilly to these people. Good on ya. I don’t think I could have done it.
I’d say that the moral high ground is cold and lonely, with a lovely view of everyone else having a grand time down in the lowlands of Assholia, kingdom of Assholes. The benefit, of course, is that at least you’re not surrounded by assholes.
Go girl, go! If you don’t have “Welcome” on your forehead, then there’s no reason to be a doormat!
i think you were absolutely correct in lipping off to them when they were at your door, threatening, even on the verge of entering WITHOUT PERMISSION. the email is fine too.
and DAMN STRAIGHT he drag his sorry arse to you to apologize. just because he makes the f’in rules, doesn’t mean he gets to break them. if ‘the board’ gives permission to his hil, then it had damn well give permission to EVERY ONE ELSE IN THE NEIGHBORHOOD.
um, i think i’ve vented enough… damn people at the art fair. too many. grr…
He’s still an AssHole..I hate him. I can hate him so you don’t have to.
You did both. Moral high ground is sometimes covering your ass to.
F’er!!! I hate the lot of them.
Very happy to read this post after the previous one.
I cannot stand HOAs - one of the best things about moving last year was moving into a neighborhood without an HOA. Our HOA was a ridiculous group of unemployed spouses that had nothing better to do with their time - even so, they hired a management company to invoice residents. So basically the majority of our fees went to paying a management company to collect our fees.
hello - I stumbled in here from the hearing loss tag… My son has mild-mod hearing loss.
I think your letter was a good thing… you weren’t being emotional, just responding in a matter of fact way. I give ya a lot of credit. Especially for the part where you explained about your daughter. People was so damn quick to judge rather than try to understand or give people the benefit of the doubt.
I’m glad he apologized.
deb